Josh has had this quote on his Facebook page ever since I can remember. Yes, I realize how bizarre it seems to quote Bill Cosby when all you can think of is "Jello Puddin' Pops!" but I've always thought it was a great quote because it is completely true. Yet, I’ve never been able to accept it. I’ve caused myself a lot of stress trying to foster communal happiness, and I knew from the get-go that I had to take a different approach for our wedding.
But the wedding thing hasn’t been easy, especially under a budget. There’s only so much you can pull off, and screaming “It’s MY wedding!” is so bridezilla. Other people’s opinions matter too much to me, but drawing the line has been tough. I heed some advice too much, causing my unhappiness, while I other advice I don’t listen to at all.
But when we peel away all of the layers of other people’s opinions, it really is OUR wedding. We are doing it our way—keeping it really small, only inviting the people whose names we know and who mutually know ours, the people that we talk to on a regular basis. The invites even say—
“Because you have shared in our lives
By your friendship and love…”
I think they key is “shared in our lives.” I don’t want to be embarrassed when I walk around the reception, chatting with guests and introducing my new husband. “Hey… you…. This is Josh. Josh, this is …. awkward pause… please, dear God, just finish my sentence for me….”
It’s all so much easier said than done. It doesn’t change the pain I feel when someone expresses their dissatisfaction with choices we have made. How am I supposed to know? I’ve never done this before! I sure as hell will never do it again.
Though my growing ulcers hate to admit it, the wedding is less than three months away now. We have engagement pictures scheduled for this Sunday evening. Hopefully the heat wave breaks by then. My mop of a mane will not respond in an attractive way to this humidity. Yuck.
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